Talking with your Preschooler

Talking with your preschooler can be a pleasure-and a challenge. Here are some tips from PBS Parent.

Give your preschooler your full attention. Even a quick but focused connection may fill your child’s need for communication. If she says “Play with me,” and you are not available, you might explain why or say, “I had a hard day at work today. I need three minutes to change. Then I can play with you.” Preschoolers can understand your feelings — to a point — and will appreciate your honesty.

Be aware of your tone. Because preschoolers are new to sentence-making themselves, they may have a heightened awareness of your tone and body language.

Reflect your child’s unspoken emotions. This helps put your child’s feelings into words. If she didn’t get a turn at the playground, you might say, “You wanted to play with the ball next, didn’t you?” or “Boy are you mad!”

Enlist your preschooler’s help in figuring out a problem. For example, you might say, “Did something in that movie scare you?” If your child doesn’t answer, you might follow up by saying, “Could it have been the look on that character’s face?”

Help your preschooler develop emotional awareness. Even if there is misbehavior — you can talk about it together. Most preschoolers can understand a sentence like “Sometimes, I get mad too. It helps me to go into another room and take some deep breaths.”

Offer limited choices. Preschoolers gain a sense of control by making their own decisions. You might say, “Do you want to get dressed before or after breakfast today?”

Don’t end your sentence with “OK?” unless you are ready for your child to say “No.” Asking your child if an activity is OK can lead to a lengthy discussion and even a power struggle.

Grant a preschooler’s wish in fantasy. If your child expresses sadness that a toy has to be shared, you might say, “Would you like it if you had the toy all to yourself? What would you do with it?” By expressing a wish and talking it through, even if it can’t be granted, a child begins to calm down.

Create safe opportunities for preschoolers to express their BIG feelings. For example, if your child is extremely angry, instead of saying, “Stop yelling,” you might say, “Go in the bathroom and scream as loud as you can for one minute.”

Don’t over-explain. Simple explanations may be more effective than long discussions. If your preschooler is having a tantrum, holding her close — or just staying nearby — may mean more than any words you can say.

From PBS Parent

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